The third window of experience is innocence or naturalness. Innocence does not mean naivete. I means the delight of the person with his or her experience of belonging to the connected mosaic of the world he or she lives in. It is childlike but not childish. An openness to experiencing permeates innocence. It renders us free and creative, risking and curious, sensual and sexual without contrivance or need to manipulate or exploit. We are joyful and continually learning from the other. Without constructing a world of our own, one that we so often mistakenly believe will better allow us to be who we are, we share ourselves. When we do not rejoice in the energy of the surrounding real world, we become a world unto ourselves, and, sterile and stagnant, we become mired in it.
Taken from The Windows of Experience by Malone and Malone
Jake Thiessen, PhD
I've been working with couples for a very long time. And, I love it! This blog is my attempt to communicate some of the things I've learned over the past 35 years.