The eighth window is making do or personal surrender. Making do has to do with our capacity to fit together with others. It has to do with the learned ability to be in the world, to commingle with that world while at the same time maintaining our own being. Making do is a major relational component of one's self. Simply being ourselves in our world as it is. We must live in our relationships with other people as they are. We must live where we are, with whom we are, doing what we are doing together, when we are doing it. We must make do. We surrender our own special needs in order to maximize the experience available to us. Those developmental experiences that teach the value of making do, without suggesting either passivity or rebellion, increase our capacity for self-being.
Taken from The Windows of Experience by Malone and Malone.
Jake Thiessen, PhD
I've been working with couples for a very long time. And, I love it! This blog is my attempt to communicate some of the things I've learned over the past 35 years.