when it comes to your relationships, there is nothing more important than listening and being heard.
Focusing deepens how you listen to yourself and to your partner. It creates a fulfilling connection that inspires confidence, trust and comfort.
Focusing can be the key that allows you to be completely present in your relationships. That presence then creates the foundation necessary for healing and growth.
What is focusing?
Focusing is a powerful process that takes us beyond intellect and linear thinking to a source of direct knowing. By learning to listen to your body's subtle cues, issues can be perceived in entirely new ways, becoming clearer and more amenable to change.
Focusing is a specific skill for accessing an inner intelligence some call "body wisdom." Through distinctive steps you can interact with your body's felt sense of real life experiences. As a result, you can harmonize your thoughts with what you feel. This unique skill can significantly enhance interaction and communication within yourself and with others.
Focusing is a process of attending inwardly with non-judgmental presence. It's a skill that can be used to find greater clarity, insight, centeredness and inner peace. In addition, when partners are skilled "focusers" they can drastically reduce the intensity and frequency of conflict.
The name "Focusing'" is not used in the conventional idea of focused attention. Rather, it's a metaphor for the process of recognizing vague, subtle, or ephemeral bodily sensations that could gradually be brought into focus, as one might adjust a pair of binoculars to turn a blurry visual image into clear, recognizable objects.
Jake Thiesen, PhD