The second window of experience is responsibility for self. No one else can be for us. We are in the world as we want to be. We may despise it, decry it, or complain mightily about it, but we are responsible for our living, for our self-being. We have to accept the fact that we live as we choose, however we lament that living. We are responsible for what e have become or have not become. This window clears when we accept the terrible but beautifully freeing realization that we must take the initiative for what we want and who we are. That acknowledgment frees us to experience and enables being. The opposite of self-responsibility is dependence and blame, in which our lives are turned over to others. Unhealthy dependency and blaming of others for who we are guarantees a lack of wholeness. If we are not responsible for our own selves, how can we ever envision being fully who we are?
Taken from, The Windows of Experience by Malone and Malone.
Jake Thiessen, PhD
I've been working with couples for a very long time. And, I love it! This blog is my attempt to communicate some of the things I've learned over the past 40 years.